heavy. Their child and his wife have to take care of two old couples. Usually, a young couple looking after an old couple is a little difficult; if the pressure increasing twice, how can they stand it. But if their parents have two children, they can share the burden of taking care of their parents. It would be much better. 首先,二胎政策对于一
些独生子女来说是天赐的礼物。对于一些家庭来说,也许父母都是独生子女,而他们也只生一个孩子。抛开孩子的孤独不说,当他们的孩子长大了,而他们也变老了,他们的孩子又和一个独生子女结婚,这样的话,压在他们孩子和孩子妻子肩上的压力是不可想象的。他们的孩子和他的妻子不得不照顾两对老人。通常,一对年轻的夫妇照顾一对老人就有点难了;如果压力增加了一倍,他们怎么能忍受呢。但是如果他们的父母有两个孩子,他们就能分享照顾父母的压力。这样会比较好。
14、关于明星
Nowadays, star-worshiping is popular among teenagers, especially many university students.
Why? When it comes to the symptoms of worshiping a star, the main factor I?d like to mention is imitation. With a blind love for their idols, teenagers firmly believe that their choices are the best. As a result, the stars? clothes, hairstyles and hobbies, as well as their behaviors in public, are closely observed or followed, though, to some extent, they may be considered improper or even ridiculous.
In my opinion, having idols is not a bad thing. However, we should make it clear who are the real “heroes”. As far as I am concerned, the real heroes are those who are making the most contributions to our society, such as teachers, doctors and scientists. As students, we should learn from them. Only in this way can we become useful persons in the future. 15、交朋友看重的品质
Everyone needs friends. A friend can give us help and share our difficulties and happiness. But how can we make friends?
First, to make friends, you must be friendly to others. Smile at others and you are sure to get a smile in return. You should try to make a stranger feel at home wherever he happens to be. Think more of others than of yourself and never judge a person by his appearance and clothes.
Second, friends should negotiate instead of quarrel. When you don't agree someone, please discuss with him.
Finally, never believe in those who leave you when you are in trouble. And never leave your friend when he is in trouble. Remember, a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Friends should be faithful to each other. So long as you can put your friend's interests in front of yours, you will have a lot of good friends.
《登天的感觉》这本书,记载了岳晓东博士在哈佛大学心理咨询中心实习期间经手的十个咨询个案。岳博士用深入浅出的表达方式说了心理咨询的基本理论和方法,并把这些理论和方法巧妙地贯穿在各个案例中,生动讲述了他所做的这十个案例。
书中的这十个案例都给我留下了深刻的印象。例如第一个案例“我是全哈佛最自卑的人”,来访者是一位大一新生,她不能很好地适应哈佛大学的生活、学习、人际交往,觉得自己是全哈佛最自卑的人。这位来访者表现出了典型的“新生适应不良综合症”。岳博士针对她的状况,采用了“现实疗法”,帮忙她从自卑的漩涡中走了出来,重新拥抱自信的阳光。 从这个案例中,我学习到了岳博士提出的自信与自卑的关联。即人是活在相互比较的感觉中的。这种比较能够给人带来自信,也能够给人带来自卑。当一个人在与人比较中尽获自信时,他要学会与自己比较来获得自谦;而当他在与人比较中尽获自卑时,他要学会与自己比较来获得自信。自信与自卑是人自我感觉的天平,其操作的原则是平衡产生美。
从这本书中,我领悟到了心理咨询的三个方面知识。
第一个是什么叫做心理咨询。心理咨询是一项使人开心和不断成长的工作。使人开心是心理咨询的前奏曲,而使人成长才是心理咨询的主旋律。心理咨询力图使个人将不愉快的经历当作自我成长的良机。它竭力使人们用心地看待个人所受的挫折与磨难,从危机中看到生机,从困难中看到期望。心理咨询也在于帮忙人学会辨证地看待生活当中的忧愁烦恼。但这一切不是靠指教劝导得来的,而是要靠启发领悟才能获得的。用马斯洛的话来讲,心理咨询就是要使人获得“顶峰的体验”,这不就是“登天的感觉”吗? 第二个是心理咨询追求的目标是什么。心理咨询要使人从挫折中认真反省,总结经验教训,增强生活的智慧,以便能够更好地应付日后生活中可能出现的各种不愉快经历,也就是要使人更好地认识自我,开发自我,激励自我。
第三个是心理咨询之高明所在是什么。心理咨询之妙,就在于它帮忙了一个人,却让那个人感到是自己帮忙了自己,即助人自助。
我很喜爱这本书的基本构架。岳晓东博士在每个案例的后面,都加入了一段个案分析。对个案的性质、特点、咨询方针及操作方法等问题都进行了详尽的讨论。在个案中,岳博士也写了一些自己对留学美国八年的感悟和体会,并就一些资料、词汇及心理学专门术语做了相关的注释。在个案分析的后面,岳博士还加了一条心理学或心理咨询方面的小知识。
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