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show that you are listening by using encouraging noises and gestures—
smiling, nodding, saying \
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keep good eye contact use positive body language
ask for more information to show your interest
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Don't ...
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look at your watch yawn sigh
look away from the person who's talking to you change the subject
finish other people's sentences for them
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Always remember the words of Benjamin Disraeli, British Prime Minister in the nineteenth century: \for hours!\Learn the rules
If you go to a social occasion in another country, remember that social rules can be different. In some countries, for example, you have to arrive on time at a party; in other countries, you don't need to. In addition, you need to know how long you should stay, and when you have to leave. Some hosts expect flowers or
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a small gift, but in other places, you can take things, but you needn't if you don't want to. Remember also that in some countries, you mustn't take flowers of a certain colour, because they're unlucky. In most places, you don't have to take a gift to a party—but find out first!
Answer the questions.
1. According to the article, should people plan what they're going to say at parties? 2. What do people think about those who talk too much? 3. Describe two things you shouldn't do in a conversation.
4. Why is it a good idea to nod and smile when the other person is talking? 5. What does the quotation from Benjamin Disraeli tell you about people?
Complete the sentences with the correct forms of the words in the box. sigh; yawn; nod; avoid; lack; smile
1. When I meet strangers, I don't like to talk about myself, so I personal questions.
2. There are very few foreign visitors to my town, so we meet people from other countries.
3. I said that we don't have enough opportunity to speak English and he head in agreement.
4. I think the man I spoke to was tired—he a lot. when he his the opportunity to answering 5. He looked very sad when I asked him about his home. He answered me.
6. I felt very welcome when I arrived at the party. The host shook my hand.
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Look at the phrases from the passage and answer the questions.
1. If you can talk confidently, does this mean that you are worried about talking to people?
2. What kind of advance planning could you do before going to a party in a foreign country?
3. Can you give an example of a low-risk conversation opener if you were talking to a friend of your parents', for example?
4. What encouraging noises and gestures can you make when you're having a conversation in Chinese?
5. What is an example of positive body language? 6. Are social rules the same in every country?
Discuss your answers to the questions.
1. Which of the ideas in the reading passage do you think are useful in your society? 2. Are there any conversation techniques that you think you will use in the future? 3. Which of the listening skills are you good at? 4. Which of the social skills do you need to improve? 5. What are some of the usual small talk topics in China?
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Read the pairs of sentences and answer the questions.
1. You must arrive on time at a party. You have to arrive on time at a party. 2. You mustn't take yellow flowers for the host. You don't have to take yellow flowers for the host.
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3. You don't have to take a gift. You don't need to take a gift.
1. Which of the following is true about the first pair of sentences?
The first one is an obligation, the second one is a suggestion. They both indicate an obligation.
They are only suggestions about what to do.
2. Which of the following is true about the second pair of sentences?
The first one indicates that something is against the law. They mean the same thing.
The first one is an obligation, the second one indicates a lack of obligation.
3. Which of the following is true about the third pair of sentences?
The second one is an obligation, the first one isn't. They mean the same thing.
The first one is an obligation, the second one isn't.
Write three rules for a social event in your country. If you go to a social event in my country,
1. you have to ____. 2. you don't have to ____. 3. you mustn't ____.
4. Look at the two sentences and decide which explanation is correct. 1. We all know each other. We don't need to worry about small talk. This means ____.
it isn't necessary to worry about it
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unfortunately we worry about it
2. The party is informal. You needn't wear a tie. This means ____.
we must not wear a tie
we can wear a tie if we choose
Complete the sentences with verbs to express obligation or lack of obligation.
1. Stop! You 2. Don't worry. You give yellow flowers to the host! It's unlucky! eat anything you don't like. wait until the prizes have 3. I'm sorry, you can't leave. You been given. 4. 5. You you do.
I take some food to the party? take a gift to the host, but she will be very pleased if Reading and Listening
Read and match the conversations with the places. There is one extra place. at a summer school; during a job interview; in a business meeting; on a boat 1: A: Wonderful, aren't they? B: Er ... I'm sorry? A: The cliffs.
B: Oh, yes, they are. A: Been here before? B: Pardon?
2: A: So ... you wrote in your application form that you're interested in mountains.
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