A mother's love should change
In “Two kinds” ,the author Amy Tan wrote a story between a Chinese immigrant mother and her American-born daughter. This story vividly reveals the contradictions and bad relationships between the mothers and daughters. The Chinese immigrant mother had high hopes for her child. She hoped that her kid can became the beat one among others kids. So that she always forced her daughter to do something that her daughter didn’t like. The mother sent her daughter to a neighbor to study the piano. But her daughter didn’t like these training. And the daughter’s bad performance let her mother lost her hope and no longer forced her practice piano. Until in her 30 years old birthday, the daughter received a piano from her mother and played easier than before, and finally understood her mother’s love.
There is an old saying is that “a mother's love never change”, however, in my opinion, nowadays in china it may be more accurate as saying that “a mother's love should change”. With the development of economy and society, the competition has become increasingly fierce in our daily life. On the one hand, parents are more concerned about the future of their children, and they want to enhance the ability of children in every aspect. For example, they send their children to art class after school or at weekends in order to promise their kids a bright future. On the other hand, the problem of spoiling children has been common these days. Children today are experiencing more and more enjoyment. Their parents will give their unlimited allowance to satisfy them so as to encourage their children to study harder, so that some children are lack of the independent ability. And these phenomena are becoming more and more common in our daily lives.
As far as I am concerned, these additional loving care and attention from parents are definitely not the really love for their children. Firstly, I believe that interest is the best teacher. Kids, in these parents’ eyes, should be given more
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flexible time to relax and do whatever they are interested in. Most kids are sent to art schools to learn things they are not interested in. Consequently, they will be reluctant to cooperate with the teachers, resulting only in the waste of time and energy. And we should not bring too much pressure to kids. Secondly, spoiling children is not the true love. Since children are going to be the future of our society, it is important to train them to develop a sense of independence as well as responsibility rather than laziness. Parents should realize the seriousness of this problem soon and start to take actions to rescue their children. It will do great harm to both their physical and mental health. Therefore, it is better to make children know their responsibilities and obligations from their childhood. The last but not the least, communication plays a significant role. Children should try to have heart-to-heart talks with their parents regularly, and express their own opinion genuinely and sincerely, which will help they have a better understanding of each other. This is a good way to let parents know how their kids feel about their world and their place in it. Parents also should always know what are their children really want. For example, as a student should work hard and understand parents always hope should be able to achieve more in the future.
At the end of the story “Two kinds”, when the daughter received a birthday gift from her mother in her 30 years old birthday, she played the piano again and found that the music suddenly became easier than before. And then she understood her mother’s great effort of training her when she was young. Also at that time, she felt her mother’s love is sweet although it was too late to understand that. Thus, this story showed us between parents and their children, understanding and trust each other is the source of love and timely communication is a bridge.
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