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有声双语美文：花点时间和值得的人在一起

Nurture your relationships. It's really prominent . 维护你的人际关系，这真的非常重要。 Your family and friends matter. 你的家人和朋友都是很重要的人。 They appear in your life for reasons. 他们出现在你的生命中是有原因的。

Cherish them. Let them know no matter how busy you are, you always have them in mind.

珍惜他们。让他们知道：无论你有多忙，你总会记着他们。 Spending time with people you look up to. 与那些你欣赏的人呆在一起。

There must be someone who is living the kind you life you envision. 肯定有人过着你梦想中的那种生活。 Spend time with them. 花些时间和他们呆在一起。

Spending time with these people need not be two-way all the time. 这种“呆在一起”并不一定得是双向的。

You can also spend time with them via reading or actively learning from their YouTube videos.

你也可以通过阅读他们的著作或者观看他们的YouTube视频来和他们“呆在一起” ==

Leadership

What Makes A Good Leader?

What makes a good leader is the use of effective management skills such as spending 50 percent or more of their time listening carefully. Great leaders understand that some of the best leadership qualities entail listening to others with undivided attention.

Great leaders with excellent management skills to encourage input and change, Also who encouraged a dialogue with the team came out on top. and the best way to measure them is based on feedback they get from their best people. People usually give the best scores to leaders you trust and to leaders who listen.

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The Most Essential Leadership Qualities:

Integrity is perhaps the most valued and respected quality of

leadership and one of the most important management skills you need to attain. By saying what you’ll do and then be doing what you say, you will build trust around your team.

To be successful as a leader, you need a combination of two ingredients: character and competence. You need to be a person of integrity. Someone people trust and are willing to follow.

To be trusted in business, you must be trustworthy. You must believe in yourself, your company, the essential goodness of your products and services, and in your people.

Out of all the existing leadership qualities, the most fascinating and distinguishing characteristic of level 5 is an often misunderstood trait: humility.

As it happens, humility doesn’t actually mean being humble . . . “Humility simply means you have a burning, driving, relentless ambition to serve and to win,”

“Without the arrogance to delude yourself into believing that you are knowing everything or always right.”

As a Level 5 Leader, you don’t believe you are perfect. You must, however, believe in yourself, and be convinced that you have what it takes to succeed and that you can get better. You are always looking for new ways to develop your leadership qualities and take your thoughts to the next level.

And most of all a successful leader shouldn't build a wall between him and his employee, in contrast, he should earn the trust of his employ. A Summery of Brian Tracy answers the question \leader?\essential for an effective leader.

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Maram Al-khazmary

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9 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person

Sensitive people get a bad rap. Research suggests that genes are responsible for the 15–20% of people who qualify as “highly sensitive.” Psychologist Elain Aron has studied this phenomenon extensively, and using MRI scans of highly sensitive people’s brains, she’s found that they experience sounds, feelings, and even the presence of other people much more intensely than the average person. Sensitivity and Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships. The good news is that highly sensitive people aren’t more or less emotionally intelligent than others.

Highly sensitive people experience things more intensely. Their strong emotions are easier to identify (and potentially use to their benefit) than the average person. This also helps them to communicate effectively because they don’t just hear the words coming out of other people’s mouths, but they also catch on to subtleties in gesture and tone.

There are trade-offs, however, as strong emotions that are left unchecked can have disastrous consequences. Highly sensitive people can use EQ to their benefit only once they understand that they are highly sensitive. This awareness ensures they reap the benefits of their heightened emotional awareness while spotting and defeating their negative tendencies. The Highly Sensitive Person

You’re likely wondering if you or someone you know are highly sensitive. The following are the most common qualities that highly sensitive

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people possess. See how many apply.

You think deeply. When life throws you a curveball, you retreat deep into your shell, thinking through every aspect of what transpired before taking any action. Small things (in your own life and other people’s lives) can have a big impact on you.

You’re detail-oriented. You’re as sensitive to details as you are to feelings. You see details that others miss, and you aren’t content until you’ve dotted all the i’s and crossed the t’s. This is a strength that is highly valuable in the right profession.

You take longer to reach decisions. Since you’re prone to dig deep beneath the surface, you tend to drag out decisions. You can’t help but try to run every possible outcome through your head, and this is often at the expense of the ticking clock.

You’re crushed by bad decisions. When you finally make a decision, and it turns out to be a poor choice, you take it much harder than most. This can create a vicious cycle that slows down your decision-making process even more, as fear of making a bad decision is part of what slows you down in the first place.

You’re emotionally reactive. When left to your own devices, you have a knee-jerk reaction to your feelings. You also have strong reactions to what other people are going through. When your emotions come on strong, it’s easy to let them hijack your behavior. The hard part is channeling your feelings into producing the behavior that you want. You take criticism harshly. Your strong feelings and intense emotional reactions can make criticism hard to take. Though you may overreact to criticism initially, you also have the tendency to think hard about things and explore them deeply. This exploration of criticism can play out well for you in the long run, as your inability to “shrug it off” helps you make the appropriate changes.

You work well in teams. Your unique ability to take other people’s

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feelings into account, weigh different aspects of multifaceted decisions, and pay attention to the smaller details makes you extremely valuable in a team environment. Of course, this can backfire if you’re the one that is tasked with making final decisions, as you’re better suited to offering input and analysis than you are to deciding whether or not to push the red button.

You have great manners. Your heightened awareness of the emotions of other people makes you highly conscientious. You pay close attention to how your behavior affects other people and have the good manners to show for it. You also get particularly irked when other people are rude.

Open offices drive you crazy. Your sensitivity to other people, loud noises, and other stimuli makes it practically impossible for you to work effectively in an open-office environment. You’re better off in a cube or working from home. Bringing It All Together

Like many things in life, being a highly sensitive person is both a blessing and a curse. It all comes down to what you make of it. Are you or someone you know highly sensitive? Please share your

thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart, the world's leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training, serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. His bestselling books have been translated into 25 languages and are available in more than 150 countries. Dr. Bradberry has written for, or been covered by, Newsweek, TIME, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The

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Washington Post, and The Harvard Business Review. ==

我是年过40,没有孩子的单身女人,我过得很开心

A few months before my 42nd birthday, I was out to dinner with friends and found myself seated next to a well-known older male writer.

42岁生日的前几个月，我和一些朋友外出吃饭，发现邻座是一位知名且年长的男作家。

I happened to be in the final stages of finishing a proposal for a memoir about being a single woman over 40 without children, and was inwardly marveling at the timing of our encounter. I was a fan of his. Perhaps he might offer some wisdom? Words of encouragement?

当时我正在给一本书的创作计划收尾，那是一本关于一个年过四十还没有孩子的单身女人的自传。我暗地里对我们相遇的时机感到惊讶。我是他的粉丝。或许他能给我提供一些建议，或是鼓励的话？

As drinks were delivered I sketched the outline of the story: No one had prepared me for how exhilarating life could be on my own. I was traveling all the time, doing what I wanted, when I wanted, released from the fear of the clock that had dogged me through my 30s. Conversely, no one had warned me of the ways in which it would actually be difficult; my mother had been very ill, for instance, and part of the book was about caring for her.

当饮料被端上来的时候，我向他简述我的故事梗概：没有人告诉过我，独居生活可以如此兴奋刺激。只要我愿意，就可以在任何时候去旅游，做一切我想做的事，而且不再像30多岁时那样，对紧紧相逼的时光感到恐惧。但是，也没有人告诫过我这样的生活可能真正面临的困难。比如我妈妈病得很严重，书中有一部分内容就是关于照料她。

No sooner had I finished than the famous writer placed his glass firmly on the white tablecloth, leaned back and declared: “Glynnis MacNicol, you have a terrible life!”

我一讲完，这位有名的作家就把眼镜重重摔在白色桌布上，身体向后一靠，说：“葛林妮丝?梅克尼可(Glynnis MacNicol)，你的生活可真糟糕！” Not exactly the feedback I was hoping for.

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这完全不是我所期待的回应。

He continued: “You’re all alone in the world, and have no one to help you.” He turned to my friends, dramatically interrupting their conversation. “Do you know how terrible this woman’s life is? She’s all by herself!”

他接着说道：“你独自一人在这世上，没有一个人能帮你。”他转向我的朋友们，戏剧性地打断他们说话：“你们知道这个女人的生活有多糟糕吗？她全靠自己一个人！”

My friends managed to snort back their drinks, barely. “But I’m fine,” I protested lightheartedly, hoping to return the discussion to writing. “I’m quite enjoying myself.”

我的朋友们勉强在杯子后面哼了几声。“但我过得挺好的，”我随口抗议道，希望能把话题重新转移到写作上来。“我真的很享受自己一个人生活。”

He took a disbelieving sip of his drink. “I want to help you,” he said. He then instructed our server to wrap up his untouched steak and insisted I take it home.

他嘬了一小口饮料，对我说的话并不相信。“我想帮你，”他说。然后他喊服务生将他没动过的牛排打包，执意让我带回去。

He thought he was being kind, I knew, but that didn’t change the fact that on an otherwise perfect spring evening in Manhattan, I again faced a dilemma I’d been struggling with since turning 40: how to counter other people’s disbelief that I, single and child-free, could possibly be enjoying my own life.

我知道，他一定自认为自己非常仁慈，但这还是不能改变一个事实，那就是在曼哈顿一个本该非常美妙的春天晚上，我再次面对一个自我40岁起就与之抗争的困境：如何反驳那些不相信我虽然单身且没有孩子，但依然能过得很好的人？

It’s a particularly frustrating Catch-22 for 21st-century ladies of a certain age. If I insisted that I really was having a great time, I was a lady who doth protest too much (men never seem to doth too much in this regard). Politely allow the assumption that I was in a pitiable state, satisfied by the fact that I knew better? That just perpetuated the problem.

这对21世纪某个特定年龄的女性来说是一种第22条军规式的矛盾处境，令人尤为沮丧。如果我坚称自己过得很好，那我就好像太喜欢辩解了（在这方面，

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男人似乎从不会显得太喜欢辩解）。如果人们认为我处境可怜，我就要礼貌地接受，只是满足于我内心知道事实并非如此吗？那样做只会让这个问题永远得不到解决。

I encounter this type of disbelief frequently — and nearly as often from women, although rarely expressed in such a wonderfully direct way.

我常常面临人们的这种怀疑——而且来自女性的怀疑也一样多，尽管她们不会像这位作家那样直白。

A year earlier I’d mentioned to an acquaintance that I found it amusing that my married friends often expressed envy over my large new apartment — and that I live in it alone — and was gently told, “they were just being nice,” to make me feel better (I assume about the fact that I was alone). There was my best friend’s

wedding, a few days after I turned 40, when, happily surrounded by my oldest, closest friends, I was assured I shouldn’t worry because “there’s still time.” (This from a guest to whom I’d just been introduced.)

一年前，我跟一个熟人提到一件趣事，已婚的朋友们常常告诉我，她们羡慕我能一个人住一套崭新的大公寓。结果这个熟人温和地答道：“她们是在说客套话，”意思是，她们想安慰我（我猜是因为我独身）。就在我40岁生日后不久，我最好的朋友结婚了。婚礼上，我开心地被亲密的老朋友们簇拥着，她们安慰说，我不必担心，因为“还有时间”。（这句话来自一个我刚刚被介绍认识的客人。）

Once, after telling a group at a party that I’d spent a month living in Paris, I was told that it was “nice that you can still enjoy

yourself.” As if the fact that I was enjoying myself — by myself! With a baguette! In Paris! — was somehow heroic.

还有一次，当我在一个派对上告诉大家我曾在巴黎生活过一个月时，大家的反应是“你还能自得其乐，真是太好了！”似乎我能在巴黎，吃着法棍，自得其乐，这有多了不起似的！

For a long time I did brush these remarks off. Yet another

unexpected gift of my 40s: just how little concern I have for others’ opinions about me. But it’s wearing thin. And increasingly I find myself frustrated by the belief that I, a reasonably successful person by most measures, do not know my own mind.

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在很长一段时间里，我都对这些话置之不理。因为我在40岁之后得到的另一份意外礼物就是不再在意别人对自己的看法。但是这种感觉正在逐渐消失。尽管我在大多数方面还算是一个成功的人，但我发现自己并不了解自己的内心，这令我感到愈来愈沮丧。

Not long ago, a friend described my book to a group of women in their 50s and 60s. They started laughing, she told me. She asked what was so funny. “It’s just that your friend will change her mind about kids at about age 48,” they said. “And then there will be a scramble, and a sperm bank, and a tank will arrive in her living room. She’ll change her mind, that’s so clear.”

不久前，一个朋友向一群五六十岁的女性描述我的书。朋友告诉我，她们大笑起来。朋友问她们，究竟是什么这么好笑。“你的朋友一定会在48岁前后改变她对孩子的想法，”她们说。“那时她会突然想要一个孩子，她会去精子库，然后一个箱子会送到的客厅里。她会改变主意的，显而易见！”

So clear! As if I didn’t understand the consequences of my decision making. I suppose this should not surprise. As a culture, we seem to thrive on judging other women, whether it’s their appearance (see every best-dressed list, ever) or what they should be allowed to do with their bodies (cast a glance at the headlines regarding the precarious future of Roe v. Wade). We are deeply uncomfortable with the idea of women on their own, navigating their own lives, let alone liking it.

显而易见！好像我不懂自己的决定会产生什么后果一样。我觉得这没什么好令人惊讶的。作为一种文化，我们热衷于对其他女人评头论足，无论是她们的外貌（看看每次的最佳着装名单，等等）；还是她们对自己身体的支配权（看看和“罗诉韦德案”堪忧的前景有关的文章标题）。我们对于女性能够独立生活并主宰自己人生的观念深感不适，更不必说赞同它了。

But, truthfully, it was the laughter that cuts to the heart of my diminishing patience on this topic. My life is full of deeply

meaningful relationships that go unrecognized when people tell me “not to worry.”

但是，坦白说，正是这些嘲笑刺痛了我的内心，我对于这一话题的耐心正在不断消退。我的生活中充满具有深刻意义的亲密关系，人们在跟我说“别担心”的时候却没有意识到它们。

I have chosen not to have children, just as I have chosen to be in

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the lives of those around me. I am Auntie Glynnis to many — and have the framed artwork portraits of my hair and school photo magnets to prove it. I am lucky to live upstairs from my oldest friend and her children — I get to do school pickups and nap time wake-ups. I have two nephews and a niece whose lives I’m

invested in. I attend birthdays, sports events and read them stories over FaceTime.

我选择不生孩子，正如我选择参与到周围人们的生活中去一样。我是很多人的葛林妮丝阿姨——这有画框里的艺术画像（画的是我的头发）以及压着学校照片的磁铁为证。我幸运地住在最好的老朋友以及她孩子的楼上——常常去学校帮她接孩子，帮她叫孩子们从午睡中醒来。我有两个侄子和一个侄女，他们的成长我都参与了。我出席他们的生日、体育活动，还会通过FaceTime给他们讲故事。

If close relationships make people happy, as research suggests, I’m lucky, and grateful, to be inundated with those. I’m, if not always the first, then the second emergency phone call for many friends (though when those happen simultaneously it can feel like I’m my own private 911 line).

如果正如研究表明的那样，亲密关系能够使人幸福，那么我感到自己很幸运，能够拥有这些关系，并且非常感激。对于很多朋友来说，就算我不是他们的第一紧急联系人，也是第二紧急联系人（尽管当他们同时有事的时候，我感觉自己成了私人911专线）。

I’m the confidante and sometimes the confessor, the Sunday

dinner guest, the person overwhelmed with holiday invitations. I’m the emergency contact on school forms, summer camp forms, hospital forms and the school “Share Day” invite list. These forms may seem negligible, but like all paperwork attached to our major relationships, they outline a life of love and gratitude.

我是很多人的知心好友，也不时聆听他们的忏悔，我是朋友们周日宴请时的常客，也是会在假期收到大量邀请的人。在学校、夏令营以及医院的表格中，我的名字经常出现在紧急联络人一栏，我还常常出现在学校“分享日”的邀请名单上。这些表格也许看起来无足轻重，但正如和我们那些主要关系有关的所有文件一样，是它们描摹出一个充满爱与感激的人生。

In the past I have joked that I have actually come closer to having it all than most. But that’s not true, either. There’s no such thing as

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“all.” I simply have as much and as little as any other woman I know and look forward to the day when women — single, married and otherwise — no longer need the words “husband” and “baby” to act as a special lemon juice squeezed over our lives in order to make them visible.

过去我常常开玩笑说，我比大多数人都更接近拥有完美人生。但那是不可能的。因为没有一种东西叫做“完美”。我和其他所有女人一样，拥有的东西不多也不少。我期望有那么一天，所有女人——无论是单身、已婚还是其他婚姻状态——都不再需要把“丈夫”和“孩子”这样的词作为让自己的人生引人瞩目的方式。

Though that too is changing. The other day my niece declared, “I want to be just like you, Auntie Glynnis! Single and no kids.” She’s 7, and has never needed to be convinced I have the life I want. 尽管如此，社会也在改变。几天前，我的侄女说，“我想和你一样，葛林尼斯阿姨！独身而且不要孩子。”她才7岁，我从不用去说服她，我的生活正是我想要的。

In the meantime, I have learned to enjoy everything I have. Including leftovers.

与此同时，我也学会了如何享受我所拥有的一切。包括剩菜。

The morning after my fateful dinner, I removed the takeout container from my fridge, cracked an egg in a frying pan and enjoyed my extra-decadent breakfast. I suppose it’s fair to say I was having my steak and eating it too.

就在那顿对我的人生产生重大影响的晚餐之后一早，我把带回来的打包盒从冰箱里拿出来，在平底煎锅里打了一个鸡蛋，享用我的超豪华早餐。既收下了牛排，又吃掉了牛排，公平地说，我真是把好处都占尽了 ==

40岁前请先掌握这些技能 Negotiating

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谈判

If the thought of getting into a debate with your boss over how much money you deserve makes you nauseated, you're not alone. If you're negotiating your salary, the best strategy both for getting what you want and still coming off as friendly is to ask for a range including and above your target number. For example, if you're aiming for a $100,000 salary, you'd suggest a $100,000 to $120,000 salary.

如果一想到与老板谈判工资就让你感到恶心，那么你不是一个人。如果你正在和老板谈工资，那不伤和气的得到预期工资的最好策略就是：给出预期工资范围（包括你的预期，但同时最大值要超过预期工资）。比如，你的预期工资是10万美元，那你应该跟老板提10万至12万美元之间。 Establishing a regular sleep schedule 有常规的作息时间

We know it's hard to hear, but it's helpful to wake up at the same time every day - even on weekends. If you oversleep for even a few days, experts say you risk resetting your body clock to a different cycle, so you'll start getting tired later in the day.

我知道这一点不常听到，但每天在同一时间醒来很有帮助--即使是周末。如果你有几天睡过了，专家表示，你可能在重置生物钟，使其进入另一种循环模式，所以你可能会有些累。

On a related note: Experts also advise against hitting \going back to sleep when your alarm goes off in the morning. Instead, hit the snooze button once and use the time until your alarm goes off again to turn on a lamp and do some light stretching.

相关说明：专家不建议早晨闹铃响了之后，按下\稍后提醒\倒头继续睡的做法。相反，按下\稍后提醒\键，然后在闹钟再次响起的这段时间内打开台灯，做一些轻度拉伸运动。

Making small talk at parties 聚会上闲聊

Chances are good that, if you're feeling awkward about chatting with a bunch of impressive people you've never met, other people are feeling the same way.

如果你觉得与一大帮你从未见过的令人印象深刻的人聊天会有点尴尬，那很

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有可能他们也有同样的感受。

But as Marjorie Gubelmann, CEO of Vie Luxe, told Oprah.com: \must go. Do not stay home. So many people are afraid that no one will talk to them and they'll leave feeling awful - but has that ever happened to you?\

Vie Luxe的首席执行官Marjorie Gubelmann对Oprah.com说道：\即使你一个人都不认识，你感到很害怕，你也必须参加聚会。不要闷在家里。很多人都担心没人找他们聊天，会不开心--但你遇到过这种情况吗？\

One solid way to improve your small-talk skills - and alleviate some of the pressure you feel - is simply to demonstrate interest in your conversation partner. Ask the person questions, let them talk about themselves, and allow them to teach you something.

提高聊天技巧的可靠方法--缓解你的压力--就是向聊天者表明你对他所说的内容很感兴趣。问他一些问题，让他们聊聊自己，让他们教会你一些东西。 Finding and sticking to an exercise routine you enjoy 找到并坚持一项你喜欢的运动

A professor of behavioral medicine told The New York Times that research suggests people who dislike or feel inept at their workouts are unlikely to continue. So experiment and find an activity you really love, whether that's spinning, Zumba, or weightlifting.

一位行为医学教授对《纽约时报》说道，研究表明不喜欢或不适合某项运动的人继续锻炼的可能性不大。所以找到自己喜欢的运动，不管是室内自行车、尊巴还是举重。 ==

这些迹象表明你充满负能量

We all have our bad days when we wake up in a terrible mood, scowl at strangers, and fume about how bad traffic is. Of course, there's nothing wrong with the occasional off day. But if this sort of crabby behavior repeatedly manifests itself for weeks or months on end, there's a good chance you're too negative.

人难免会有不在状态的时候：醒来时心情不好、对陌生人皱眉、因交通拥堵而沮丧。当然，偶尔不在状态并没有关系。但如果这种暴躁的行为总是重复发生，持续几周或几个月，那这很有可能是你充满负能量的迹象。

Having a long-term negative outlook on life can creep up on you

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without your realizing it, and it's likely an indicator that you may need to make a larger life change-a new job, new relationship, or at least a new hobby. The thing is, people with negative outlooks aren't exactly the type of people that would recognize such

behavior in themselves. To that end, here are signs you might be negative.

对生活持长期负面看法会潜移默化的影响你，也可能表明你需要做出更大的生活改变--找份新工作、谈一段新恋情，或者至少培养新的兴趣。问题是，持消极看法的人并不是那种本身会承认自己有此种行为的人。所以，我们整理了一些迹象，表明你可能充满负能量。

1. You only have one perspective: your own. 1. 你只有一种观点：你自己的观点。

A good sign you are too negative is that every comment you hear gets mentally run through a filter in which you ask, \about me?\

充满负能量的一种表现为：每听到一句话都会自行过滤，并自问\那句话和我有什么联系？\

Erin Wathen, of EW Wellness Solutions, gives this example: \summer college intern makes an innocent comment about the morning commute being a nightmare this morning. You snap at them, because in your mind, you have been commuting into the city longer than they have been alive, and they have no idea what is truly work, or what it feels like to have to make up for lost time due to traffic.\

EW Wellness Solutions机构的艾琳·瓦特恩（Erin Wathen）举了一个例子：\暑期大学实习生聊天的时候说到了今天早晨的交通简直就是一场噩梦。你呵斥了他们，因为你觉得，你每天上下班的时间比他们活着的时间都长，他们根本不知道什么才是真正的工作，也不知道由于交通拥堵而不得不加班加点是什么滋味。\

2. Social media stresses you out. 2. 社交媒体让你倍感压力。

If hopping on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or Instagram and seeing the good times others are having makes your blood

temperature-you find yourself wanting to comment, \below your friends' vacation photos-you might be a bit too negative.

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Wathen emphasizes that social media can stress out a negative person, who views things in extremes, assuming that others are enjoying life more than they are.

如果你不停的在脸书、推特、阅后即焚或Ins上切换，看到他人十分享受的状态让你血液沸腾--你想评论，在朋友度假的照片底部评论\肯定很赞\那这可能表明你充满负能量。瓦特恩强调，社交媒体会让负能量的人倍感压力，他们看待事物的角度很极端，认为其他人比他们更会享受生活。

\parts that make us view our own lives, friends and family as not cool, fun or posh enough we diminish what is front of us,\\在Ins上，没有人的生活是完美的，所以当我们觉得自己的生活、朋友和家人一点都不酷、没有趣或没有钱的时候，我们会看低周边的一切，\她说道。 ==

6 Tips To Stay Motivated Through Unemployment Hundreds of job applications, 20+ interviews, job offers, acceptances, bad luck strikes...repeat. This has been my constant battle for the past month and a half. I was in a rut. I needed a light at the end of the tunnel. I needed that something to motivate me.

I need something to put time and energy into besides job hunting, I

thought to myself. I started with a trip home to Michigan to take some time. I reset there and came back to Milwaukee with a fresh outlook. Ideas starting hitting me. These are the things that now make me want to start my unemployed day... 1. Reflection...it is important to use the past mistakes and

successes as tools to succeed in the future. Making time to truly think about the moments that you created and that inspire you to keep pushing forward. 2. Self-talk...give yourself pep talks on a daily-basis. You can do it. You will get a job that you love and that loves you! 3. Side hustle...create something you have always wanted to create. I decided to pick my business idea back up after abandoning it since February. Investing time into focusing on one of your passions is highly important. Mine is motivating and helping people stay positive. Through this passion I built The Good News.

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By having a strong hobby or side hustle you are able to consciously focus on uplifting and something that is meaningful to you. Focusing on my content as I built the weekly newsletters for my subscribers, would be motivating in and of itself. 4. Health...spend some time researching new diets, new exercises, and new ways to keep both your body and mind healthy. I changed my workout routine to more cardio focused. Running every morning before breakfast is one of the best ways to start the day and make you feel you can take on the world. I also changed up my diet and incorporated more vitamins which seems to make a difference as well. 5. Job prospects...the moment that interview is scheduled, enjoy it. It is exciting news and rewarding to picture yourself in the position and getting it! 6. Your loved ones...focus on the people that keep you positive and keep you going when you are down. Invest in the friendships that make you feel loved and important despite any failings you may have done. Surround yourself with people who simultaneously challenge you and uplift you. Good luck to all of my fellow FUNemployees, you got this!

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双语美文：没有努力的动力，应该怎么办

Realize that you have options. There are places even here in the US where people don't have the option of being out of survival mode enough to ponder these issues.

要明白你还有选择如何生活的权利。在美国，有些地方的人们甚至还陷于如何生存下去的水深火热之中，根本没时间考虑其他问题。

If I were you, this is what I’d do: I’d pack a backpack and start traveling for up to a year.

如果我是你，我会打包行李，开始为期一年的旅行。

The beauty of traveling is that, with little effort, it will take you out of your head - new currencies, new foods, new accents and people so you HAVE to pay more attention to everyday things.

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旅行的魅力在于，只需要耗费一点点精力，就会让你跳出现有的生活状态，去认识新的货币，接触新奇的食物，不同的口音和人们，于是你就会更多地去关注日常事物。

Whether abroad or in the US, I’d suggest you do some volunteer work. When you don’t know what to do for yourself, go do something for another person (or for animals, the environment, etc…).

无论你去国外还是在美国，我建议你做一些志愿者工作。当你不知道自己要做什么时，那就去为别人（或动物，环境等…）做一些事情。

Besides traveling and volunteering, something else that’s great for when you don’t give a hoot is to read.

除了旅行和志愿者活动，在你对一切不屑一顾的时候，阅读会有益于你。 Read just for reading sake! Not to make you a better person, to get ahead, to pass the time, to be productive. Just find anything or anyone that interests you and read about it.

为了阅读而阅读！读书不是为了成为一个更好的人，而是为了进步，消磨时间或是提高创新思维。只要找任何你感兴趣的人或物去阅读就可以。 Remember you are not the one feeling this sense of helplessness. 你要知道每个人都会有感到无助的时候。

It's ok to fail. I know how bad you feel now. You worked so hard to get into your dream school and you didn't get admitted in the end. It just didn't make any sense. Just let all these emotions out. Cry it out. And let it go. 失败了没关系。我知道你现在有多难过。你如此努力却最终没有被你梦寐以求的学校录取。但现在说这些都没有意义了。让你的情绪宣泄出来。大声哭出来吧。然后让它随风而去。

You are not alone. There are people around you who cares about you. Your parents, friends, siblings. They were always there. Go talk to them and tell them how you feel.

你并没有孤立无援。你身边还有很多关心你的人。比如你的父母，朋友和兄弟姐妹。他们一直都在。试着与他们谈谈心，告诉他们你的感受。

Life is meaningful. Stop whatever you are doing and think about your life. What is important to you? What makes you happy? Or what makes you particularly sad? These are a few places you can start.

生活是有意义的。不管你在做什么，都要停下手中的事去思考你的生活。对你来说什么才是重要的？ 什么会使你快乐？或是什么会让你特别伤心？这些都是你可以重新出发的点。

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Life's beautiful. It may seem like life’s unfair because you didn't get you wanted after giving up so much. But these failures and setbacks will renew your perspective in life. You realise you didn't really need whatever you're working so hard for. You start to cherish the people and the things around you. Endure the darkness because it shows you the stars.

生活是美好的。有时候你可能会觉得生活待你不公，因为在你放弃很多东西以后依旧没有得到你想要的。但是这些失败和挫折都会刷新你的人生观。你会意识到你所努力争取的并不是你真正想要的。于是你开始懂得珍惜身边的人和事。忍受了黑暗才能看见漫天的繁星星 ==

双语美文：财富与幸福真的有关系吗

So, is it that we have been thinking in the wrong way all along? 所以，是不是我们一直以来思考问题的方向都错了呢？

Don’t care too much about money, because money can only interfere with your pursuit of happiness. The irony is that people think they will be happy when they have money.

不要太在意金钱，因为金钱只会对你追寻幸福的过程造成干扰。最讽刺的是，人们以为自己拥有金钱就会幸福。

In fact, money has nothing to do with happiness. If you are happy and have money, you can use money in exchange for happiness.

事实上金钱与幸福毫不相干。如果你感到幸福，同时又拥有金钱，你可以用金钱来换取幸福。

However, if you are not happy but have money, then your money can only bring you more misfortune, as money is only a neutral force.

然而如果你没有感到幸福，却拥有金钱，那么你的金钱只能换来更多的不幸。因为金钱只是一种中性的作用力。

Please do not get me wrong. I am not against money. I have no objection to anything. But money is just a means. Money will allow you to move forward with your current lifestyle, no matter how good or bad it is.

请别误会：我并非反对金钱。我没有反对任何东西。但是金钱仅仅是一种手段。金钱会让你按照已有的生活模式向前迈进，无论你此时的生活模式是好是坏。

But people still keep chasing money as if money can bring them happiness. Whenever they realize that they can find money at another crossing road of life, they will immediately reverse their lifestyle and change their way of life.

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可是人们还是不停地寻求金钱，似乎金钱能带给他们幸福似的。任何时候，如果他们发现在生活之路的另一个岔路口上可以找到金钱，他们就会立刻扭转自己的生活模式，改变自己的生活道路。

But once these people find money, they immediately lose themselves because they are ready to change themselves for money.

可是这些人一旦找到了金钱，却会立刻迷失自我，因为他们已经准备好了为金钱而改变自己。

This is the common secular way of life in this world. Remember, I call them secular not because they have money, but because they have changed their life goals for money. It goes the same for people who are poor.

这就是世俗中芸芸众生的生活方式。记住，我称其世俗并非因为他们拥有金钱，而是因为他们为了金钱而改变了自己的生活目标。对一文不名的人来说同样如此——或许他们仅仅是贫穷。

Poverty does not necessarily mean that the spirit is noble, and wealth is not necessarily equal to money worship. The true money worship lifestyle is to let money over everything.

贫穷并不等于精神高尚，而富贵也并不等于拜金主义。真正的拜金主义生活方式是让金钱凌驾于一切之上。

As to the lifestyle that does not worship money, money is only seen as a means: happiness, joy, and your individual dignity are placed higher than money. You know who you are, where your goals are, and you won’t get distracted.

而非拜金主义的生活方式，是将金钱仅仅视作一种手段：幸福、快乐和你的个体尊严都是高于金钱的。你知道自己是谁，知道自己的目标在何处，你不会受到旁骛的干扰。

If you can do this, you will find Zen in your life.

能够如此，你就会发现，你的生活忽然有了一种禅意 ==

双语美文：控制不了花钱的欲望就不会快乐

According to a new survey, many Americans can't save money because they go out to eat too often.

根据一项新的调查，许多美国人存不下钱是因为他们外出就餐太频繁了。 The survey results vary based on age and gender . However, it is widely believed that eating out is the most wasteful. Nearly 69% of respondents said they spent too much money at restaurants.

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根据年龄和性别的不同，调查结果也有所不同。不过，人们普遍认为外出就餐最浪费钱。近69%的应答者表示他们在饭店花了太多钱。

Twenty-five percent of respondents admitted to wasting money on alcohol, and nearly 20% of respondents admitted to wasting money on credit card interest.

25%的调查对象承认把钞票浪费在酒精上了，近20%的调查对象承认把钱浪费在信用卡利息上了。

More than 30% of respondents said they were wasting their money by

expiring or not eating food, although few people were willing to try to make changes.

超过30%的调查对象表示：他们任由食物过期或不吃而把钱浪费掉了，虽然很少有人愿意试着做出改变。

However, more than 17% of respondents said they did not waste money. 然而，超过17%的调查对象表示他们没有浪费钱。

To these magnificent people, we can’t help but ask: Do you know what online shopping is?

面对这样的大神我们不禁要问：您是不是不知道什么叫网购？

There are more women who admit to wasting money than men. But this may have a lot to do with social pressure, as women have to spend money on beauty care products.

承认浪费钱的女士比男士要多。但这可能与社会压力有很大关系，她们要花钱购买美容护理用品。

Different generations have different opinions on what kind of behavior is a waste of money. Most millennials don’t worry about wasting money on cable bills, but they spend too much money on streaming services.

对于何种行为浪费钱，不同代的人也有不同的看法。多数千禧一代的人不担心会在有线电视账单上浪费钱，但是他们表示自己在流媒体服务上花了太多钱。

It's important to note that this is a self-reported survey, which means that the survey is not about where people actually waste their money, but what they think is a waste of money.

需要注意的是，这是一个自我报告式的调查，这意味着这个调查不是关于人们实际上把钱浪费在什么地方了，而是他们认为做什么是浪费钱的。

Well, it seems ironic that you try to make yourself happy by spending money, but afterwards you feel unhappy for the spent money.

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嗯，这个似乎蛮讽刺的，你企图通过花钱来让自己快乐，但事后却因为花钱这个动作而感到不快乐 ==

有声双语美文：请让自己值得拥有爱情

If you're really longing for love, don't just wait for it to happen. 如果你真的渴望爱情，就不要只是期待遇到谁。 Make yourself deserving this love. 去让自己变得值得拥有这份爱情吧。

Don't just wait for someone to warm your heart every time you feel low. 不要只是期待每次你失落的时候有人温暖你。 Become someone who can warm others. 去变成一个能温暖别人的人吧。

If you want something beautiful, the best way to get it is to make yourself deserving it.

要得到一样美好的东西，最好的做法是让自己变得值得拥有它。 It's all the same whether what you want is wealth or love or fame. 不管是财富，还是爱情，亦或是名望，都是如此。 No one likes a person who only asks for things. 没有人喜欢一个只知道索取的人。 And love is not an elixir. 而爱情也不是什么万灵药。 True love is not illogical.

真正的爱情并不是不合逻辑的。 It's not irrational. 它也不是非理性的。

It's the resonance of two mature souls. 它是两个成熟灵魂的心心相惜。

So don't just wait for love to be handed to you. It doesn't come that way. True love comes from efforts.

所以，不要渴求爱情从天而降，它不会的。正正的爱情，是奋斗与经营的结果。

And only love like this can go far. 这样的爱，才会长久。 ==

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嗯，这个似乎蛮讽刺的，你企图通过花钱来让自己快乐，但事后却因为花钱这个动作而感到不快乐 ==

有声双语美文：请让自己值得拥有爱情

If you're really longing for love, don't just wait for it to happen. 如果你真的渴望爱情，就不要只是期待遇到谁。 Make yourself deserving this love. 去让自己变得值得拥有这份爱情吧。

Don't just wait for someone to warm your heart every time you feel low. 不要只是期待每次你失落的时候有人温暖你。 Become someone who can warm others. 去变成一个能温暖别人的人吧。

If you want something beautiful, the best way to get it is to make yourself deserving it.

要得到一样美好的东西，最好的做法是让自己变得值得拥有它。 It's all the same whether what you want is wealth or love or fame. 不管是财富，还是爱情，亦或是名望，都是如此。 No one likes a person who only asks for things. 没有人喜欢一个只知道索取的人。 And love is not an elixir. 而爱情也不是什么万灵药。 True love is not illogical.

真正的爱情并不是不合逻辑的。 It's not irrational. 它也不是非理性的。

It's the resonance of two mature souls. 它是两个成熟灵魂的心心相惜。

So don't just wait for love to be handed to you. It doesn't come that way. True love comes from efforts.

所以，不要渴求爱情从天而降，它不会的。正正的爱情，是奋斗与经营的结果。

And only love like this can go far. 这样的爱，才会长久。 ==

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